This traditional dating convention kills great sex!

romantic-dinnerWhy one of the most conventional social dating customs that kills great sex:

You’ve all done it. That ‘oh so traditional’ social dating convention that is supposed to lead setting the mood.

Thinking you’re following the perfect script.

Taking your date out to a delicious sushi dinner, throw back a few sakes and split a green tea ice cream, or that delicious steak dinner with two martinis and then catching an Uber home in hopes of a wild romp.

Ufff, how unfortunate.

Despite the common social myth, taking your date out for a romantic dinner often leads to a subpar experience in the bedroom. Great food and alcohol  = bad sex. Here’s what happens  – the belly is full and your libido goes almost exclusively towards digesting. Your inner fire that could be devoted exclusively to your lover is now in a relationship with your supper. Granted, you might have loosened up with a few drinks and flexed your flirting skills, but you also dulled your sensual perceptions and diluted your ability to feel and be embodied. Your date probably had this experience as well and is currently trying suck in their belly from two many California rolls.

If you need to loosen up before sex, trying synchronized breathing, eye gazing or walking in nature together.

If you’re worried about being hungry, or run low blood sugar, why not try a finger food feast where you have to feed your beloved each bite. I guarantee you’ll eat fewer mango slices from your partner’s lips because you will most likely be focused on your partner’s lips and the pleasure in your body.

Why not give big dinners before sex a rest or savor in the joys of afternoon delights.

Herbs for Male Enhancement and Increased Libido

herbs-heart-bowls_sqHerbs for Male Enhancement and Increased Libido by Isadora 

I have a background in herbalism and am often asked by men for herbs that can help with libido and sexual health and longevity. I also believe that there can be an effortless and effective way of integrating allopathic and natural herbal formulas to increase libido and sexual health.

There is a natural dip in testosterone when men hit middle age. Erections may become possibly less strong and less frequent.

There are several wonderful almost magical little pills that your Western doctor can prescribe for you AND for those include to explore a complimentary natural approach there are herbs that can support your overall sexual health as well.

I’m sure most people reading this are familiar with the male holy trinity of Viagra, Cialis and Levitra. All of them give you about the same erectile boost but over a different time frame and with slightly different side effects. Some of the pills you can take regularly and others per occasion as it arises, so to speak 😉

Here’s a few herbs to consider including in your daily ritual. I put links for easy access on Amazon but there are many places you can buy quality herbs including your local herb store – RECOMMENDED!

Oatstraw Avena sativa as an infusion, which I recommend taking as a really strong tea or what herbalists call an infusion. Oatstraw frees up the bound testosterone in the body, soothes nervous system and is also energizing. A mild aphrodisiac. Like eating oatmeal everyday – where do you think the phrase sewing ones oats or taking a roll in the hay came from. Oatstraw is one sexy herb. This would be an herb to make into a very strong tea and drink everyday to optimize health and sexual energy.

Horny Goat Weed Epimedium – this herb has been used in China for centuries to treat low libido. Has also been used to help regulate high blood pressure and has also been used to relieve pain, and to reduce inflammation in the body as an overall anti-inflammatory. “A 2008 lab study found that a compound in the herb blocks the effects of an enzyme that restricts blood flow to the penis. Epimedium, the suspected active component of horny goat weed, appears to act as a phosphodiesterase inhibitor, similar to some drugs used for ED. What’s more, the study indicated that horny goat weed could theoretically work better — and cause fewer side effects — than current drugs for erectile dysfunction

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Saw Palmetto Serenoa repens/Sabal serrulata  supports prostate health and has been known to stop hair loss! Prostates will become enlarged and inflamed as men age, which can cause BPH Benign Prostatic Hypertrophy. BPH symptoms can then compress the urethra leading to difficult urination. The American Urological Association reports that by the age of 60, over 50 percent of men will have BPH, and by age 85, 90 percent of men will have this condition. To add to this, one-fourth of these men will develop moderate to severe lower urinary tract symptoms that will greatly affect their quality of life. This is one of the most commonly used herbs for to reduce prostate cancer in men.

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Check out your local herb store for teas and tinctures.

“She so thoroughly taught him that one cannot take pleasure without giving pleasure…”

rose-Love-my-album-erotisch-target_blank-fleurs-ibravo-album-n°1-lips-pretty-dirks-album-BEST-FLOWERS-usta-sensual-Kwiaty-sexy_large“So she thoroughly taught him that one cannot take pleasure without giving pleasure, and that every gesture, every caress, every touch, every glance, every last bit of the body has its secret, which brings happiness to the person who knows how to wake it. She taught him that after a celebration of love the lovers should not part without admiring each other, without being conquered or having conquered, so that neither is bleak or glutted or has the bad feeling of being used or misused.”

~ Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha

Savoring Seattle June – October 2016



ltl_summer_of_go_seattle_article_I’m delighted to be savoring the sensual and epicurean delights of Seattle this Summer!

I have a special Blissful Tantra Bodywork offering for first time clients looking to tentatively step a toe into the sensual and erotic arts.

Be sure and check out my offerings page for details.

Sensual Blessings,